So there you are, running around in circles with a mental list of a thousand things that need doing, but not getting a whole lot of anything done. There are things that need other things to resolve before you can move on, decisions that have to be made and are now out of your hands, but you need to get it all sorted right now or else, right?
Or else, what?
What are you hoping to achieve by running around in circles, trying to pre-empt every move, decision or actions of others? You wind up so stressed that you become snappy. Friends are avoiding you because you are becoming unpleasant to be around… You become insecure and clingy as your friends leave you… And all of a sudden, there you are, by yourself, and probably on the verge of a heart attack you are so wound up. Your problems are getting bigger and more dramatic by the day, and you feel like your head is going to explode.
Are they really that big?
If you have read my previous blog on Managing the Overwhelming, this is what you need to do…
Okay, so you have done that… What next?
Below is an example of something you can do – what is most important, is what you say and then what happens next.
Imagine yourself putting all those situations you can’t control, as well as the partial control issues, into a big box. Imagine yourself handing the box to an Angel. Then you say:
“I surrender these things to you with love. Please return to me, those that need my attention, healed.”
The Universe, Angels, God, Allah, Jehovah, Buddha, whoever you surrender these things to is going to go through all the issues, discard the ones that don’t serve you and return the things that do serve you, healed or with an outcome.
You can use your imagination here. You don’t have to hand a box to an angel, you can hand a rope to Buddha if that is the image that serves you best. The main point to remember that on that rope/in that box/attached to whatever you want to use as your vessel, you have placed the things you need to surrender and want healed. As I said before, whatever image serves you best in handing them over to the higher being for sorting and healing.
Something that helps me connect (for want of a better word) when I surrender my issues, is to either go and stand barefoot at the beach, letting the water lap at my feet (or go anywhere that has earth and water together for that matter – mud is great too!) or while I am having a shower, so at the same time I can affirm that I am washing away negativity while surrendering. Water is the seat of emotion and earth is grounding, that's why I try to get as close to both as possible when surrendering.
The big key to surrender is this: Once you have surrendered your issues, you are to leave them alone so that The Universe, et al, can heal them. If you keep forcing doors (as with my previous blog) it will only backfire; because you have not truly surrendered them, have you? Only once you have fully surrendered the situation, can it be healed. You will feel lighter and less burdened. I guarantee it.
Let me tell you my own little story…
About 7 years ago, someone I cared about very much at the time, passed out of my life. I was devastated and felt very lost, despite knowing the inevitability of the situation. I was based in Townsville at the time and one of my close friends lived a little further north in Cairns. I used to visit her regularly, and when I would get there on the Friday night, we would go to the night markets, get a massage, then the next day get the most divine French toast for brunch and just relax. Then on Sundays I would go with her to Church (I am not of any religious persuasion, but I don’t mind going now and again) – it was our routine and I loved every minute of it. So I decided to go up for a weekend to clear my head. Sunday rolled around and I was dreading church a bit, because of the fact I didn’t want to fall apart in front of strangers.
Having been a Tarot reader for a few years by that stage, I already knew about surrendering and letting the Angels and Universe do their work, but as usual, life gets in the way and we lose touch of even the simplest of actions… You could have knocked me over with a feather when the first thing out of the Pastor’s mouth after welcoming us was, “Today, we are going to talk about surrender.” Talk about serendipity! So after Church, my friend and I went and got a coffee, then she left me alone to do what I had to do. I let it all go to the Universe. It was almost instantaneous, the feeling of lightness and hope that came. When we met back up, even my friend commented on how much I had changed in the way I was carrying myself. Just from that few minutes alone!
Obviously I still had to grieve, but the grieving process became a lot easier to bear because I was remembering the positives and knowing I still had good memories rather than focussing on the loss and the pain that comes with it, or trying to bring this person back into my life. In any case, I had to let the situation go.
So if you are surrendering a painful situation, it is best to know that you are still going to hurt a little. The grieving process still happens, surrendering makes the load a little easier to carry and the future clearer.
“What is given to you is what is needed; what you want, requires giving up what you don't need.” ― George Alexiou
Or else, what?
What are you hoping to achieve by running around in circles, trying to pre-empt every move, decision or actions of others? You wind up so stressed that you become snappy. Friends are avoiding you because you are becoming unpleasant to be around… You become insecure and clingy as your friends leave you… And all of a sudden, there you are, by yourself, and probably on the verge of a heart attack you are so wound up. Your problems are getting bigger and more dramatic by the day, and you feel like your head is going to explode.
Are they really that big?
If you have read my previous blog on Managing the Overwhelming, this is what you need to do…
- Stop. Breathe.
- Call your closest, most trusted friend (who will be your objective observer) and catch up for a coffee.
- Tell them what is going on and ask for their honest feedback.
- Write down all those issues and put them into their three categories of:
- Things you have full control over,
- Things you have partial control over, and
- Things you have no control over.
Okay, so you have done that… What next?
Below is an example of something you can do – what is most important, is what you say and then what happens next.
Imagine yourself putting all those situations you can’t control, as well as the partial control issues, into a big box. Imagine yourself handing the box to an Angel. Then you say:
“I surrender these things to you with love. Please return to me, those that need my attention, healed.”
The Universe, Angels, God, Allah, Jehovah, Buddha, whoever you surrender these things to is going to go through all the issues, discard the ones that don’t serve you and return the things that do serve you, healed or with an outcome.
You can use your imagination here. You don’t have to hand a box to an angel, you can hand a rope to Buddha if that is the image that serves you best. The main point to remember that on that rope/in that box/attached to whatever you want to use as your vessel, you have placed the things you need to surrender and want healed. As I said before, whatever image serves you best in handing them over to the higher being for sorting and healing.
Something that helps me connect (for want of a better word) when I surrender my issues, is to either go and stand barefoot at the beach, letting the water lap at my feet (or go anywhere that has earth and water together for that matter – mud is great too!) or while I am having a shower, so at the same time I can affirm that I am washing away negativity while surrendering. Water is the seat of emotion and earth is grounding, that's why I try to get as close to both as possible when surrendering.
The big key to surrender is this: Once you have surrendered your issues, you are to leave them alone so that The Universe, et al, can heal them. If you keep forcing doors (as with my previous blog) it will only backfire; because you have not truly surrendered them, have you? Only once you have fully surrendered the situation, can it be healed. You will feel lighter and less burdened. I guarantee it.
Let me tell you my own little story…
About 7 years ago, someone I cared about very much at the time, passed out of my life. I was devastated and felt very lost, despite knowing the inevitability of the situation. I was based in Townsville at the time and one of my close friends lived a little further north in Cairns. I used to visit her regularly, and when I would get there on the Friday night, we would go to the night markets, get a massage, then the next day get the most divine French toast for brunch and just relax. Then on Sundays I would go with her to Church (I am not of any religious persuasion, but I don’t mind going now and again) – it was our routine and I loved every minute of it. So I decided to go up for a weekend to clear my head. Sunday rolled around and I was dreading church a bit, because of the fact I didn’t want to fall apart in front of strangers.
Having been a Tarot reader for a few years by that stage, I already knew about surrendering and letting the Angels and Universe do their work, but as usual, life gets in the way and we lose touch of even the simplest of actions… You could have knocked me over with a feather when the first thing out of the Pastor’s mouth after welcoming us was, “Today, we are going to talk about surrender.” Talk about serendipity! So after Church, my friend and I went and got a coffee, then she left me alone to do what I had to do. I let it all go to the Universe. It was almost instantaneous, the feeling of lightness and hope that came. When we met back up, even my friend commented on how much I had changed in the way I was carrying myself. Just from that few minutes alone!
Obviously I still had to grieve, but the grieving process became a lot easier to bear because I was remembering the positives and knowing I still had good memories rather than focussing on the loss and the pain that comes with it, or trying to bring this person back into my life. In any case, I had to let the situation go.
So if you are surrendering a painful situation, it is best to know that you are still going to hurt a little. The grieving process still happens, surrendering makes the load a little easier to carry and the future clearer.
“What is given to you is what is needed; what you want, requires giving up what you don't need.” ― George Alexiou
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